Tuesday, October 27, 2009

Quan's witty responses and tricks

Quan is getting more and more witty nowadays.

The EYES vs the MOUTH on TV
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Quan : Mama, I want to watch TV ...
Me : Have you finished your dinner?
Quan : No Mama but I want to watch now ...
Me : No Quan, you finish your dinner first.
Quan : Mama .... it's not me but my EYES want to watch ()

So it's not him .. it's the eyes har - Faintz. At this junction, I had to think really hard cos this answer is something really new to me.

Me : ok darling, you ask your MOUTH to tell your EYES that the MOUTH needs to eat first then after dinner, the EYES can watch TV.
Quan : ok mama.

Drinking Milo after dinner
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Quan : Mama, I want to drink the packet Milo now ....
Me : Ok but not now, later when I come home
Quan : Mama, I want to drink now! *starts whining and crying
Me : Quan, you just had your dinner, you need to let your tummy rest.
Quan : But mama, I want to drink now! Mama, u say yes? *continues whine and cry.
Me : ok, Quan, what is the time now? you can only drink at 8pm.
Quan : Mama, it's now 8 o'clock.
Me : it's only 7+ , I know the time, is the clock with u? look carefully.
Quan : but Mama, it's really 8 now ... my clock is already 8.

* Thinking really hard how to convince him that it is 7+ only and suddenly it dawn on me that his clock might really be showing 8 and he is not lying cos he learnt to turn the clock to the correct time instead.

Me : Quan, did you do something to the clock?
Quan : Yes mama.
Me : Err, did you turn the clock to 8?
Quan : Yes and it's 8 now.
Me : (*double faint) ... ok, Quan, now look behind and see who's home?

* managed to get home in time with all the delaying tactics so that he dun drink immediately after dinner. Want him to learn on how to wait instead of wanting things instantly.

Tuesday, September 8, 2009

Kai @ 1 year old

Kai had celebrated his 1st birthday few weeks ago. Time flies and can't imagine he is now one years old.
Thing that he can do now.
1) Persons he can call papa, mama, yeye, nainai --> and he knows exactly who he is calling, not just calling ramdomly.

2) His favourite words :-
  • Eat. He'll point to every kind of food and always say "Eat" "Eat" .... sometimes when he is hungry or wants to eat it, he'll also say it. However, he is still eating vv little as a 1 year old. He hardly takes more than 5 spoonful of rice. Very little for a toddler who is now standing at 11kg(or more).
  • Eeeee - He'll see some dirt on the floor and says "Eeeee" cos my #1 says that too.
  • Flower - He can say "Ah-wer" ... cos he cannot pronounce the "F" yet ....
  • Duck, Lion - He likes one of the potrait of animals I hang in his room which one of them is a duck and another lion. He can't really pronounce Lion yet but it has a certain sound that makes it sound like lion when we point to it sometimes.
  • Bear, Ball
3) He can now walk 5-10 steps on his own unassisted.
4) He can attempt to get the ball from below the bed, chair by using his hands, sometimes if he cannot reach, he'll turn around and use his feet to try to kick it out. This is also imitating my #1 who does that
5) He can push open the door and then crawl inside and push close the door.
6) He knows where things are and will try to put it back to where it is suppose to be sometimes. Good memory.
7) He loves to swim and bathe. He loves water basically.
8) He is not afraid of bathing, esp when washing his hair cos I told my maid to let water flow down his face when washing his hair. Learnt this cos my #1 learnt to tilt his head backwards when washing his hair and now is very paranoid when water flows into his eyes. Kai will not have that problem.
10) He's now 11kg @77cm (or more). He feels heavier oredi but haven't measure.
11) Kai has oredi 8 teethh
12) He can nod his head and shake his head if he does not want anymore.
13) Control the ball well, he can throw the ball to the person playing with him
14) Point to the bread on the table and say Eat
15) Likes Trees and flowers
16) He can put things back into the container or into the shape sorter (in the bigger hole).

These are some of the milestones for Kai and he has indeed grown alot since birth. He's a bigger size boy than ZQ. ZQ is a happy go lucky child, very easy to manage and gets over on things very fast. As for Kai, he is slightly more stubborn. Things that he wants, he'd eh eh eh or cry until he gets his way but of course I try not to give in. He's more observant that ZQ and quieter. However, I feel he is more steady and learns before he attempts it and makes mistakes. For ZQ, he's more quick to try things and of course makes lots of mistakes but he learns as well, in a different way.

Birthday Poster I made for Kai.



Friday, August 7, 2009

August Baby Bash

Pic taken by Mommy Kat during the Aug Baby Bash. I did not take any as my camera is spoilt ... videos are uploaded in fb. love this pic, Kai eyes looks so big.





Baby group pic


This is the group pic taken for a baby group photo session. It was quite a fun experience. The only thing is that the other 2 pics are still being processed. Will post up once I get it.

Quan@almost 3.5 yrs old and Kai @ 11+months

Quan is vv cute. Recently Kai is only learning to stand without holding on to things and Quan, being a vv encouraging brother will rush to tell me that little brother is standing vv well.
Once, when I returned home, Quan came to me and said excitedly "Mama, didi can stand very well, hurray!"and he'll say "Well done didi" "Good job Didi".

Then the other day, I was trying to bring a box down from above the wardrobe and I had to climb on my bed to reach it. When I took it down, Quan came to me and paste a sticker on my t-shirt and said "Well done Mama". I wondered why and he said "Because you can stand very well." It's so cute of him. I really like the part that he is a very positive and encouraging kid.

He is now standing 102cm tall and weighing a 17.8kg. A big boy he is. As for Kai, he'll catch up in no time. Kai is already 77cm(or more) at 11kg @ 11 months. A much bigger baby than Quan at his age. Kai is darker, has more hair and is the sunshine beach boy look. Quan is more of the goodie boy next door look.

Regardless of how they look or are, they are still my beloved boys! It's really fun to see them growing up. Enjoy every moment of it.

One of the lastest stunts for Kai is , he'll put his fingers in front of his mouth cos we told him to "Shhhh " ... as he is vv noisy when he wants to get things he likes. He has also learnt to pass things over to Quan - which I feel is a good training for him to learn to share his toys. He's really cute to hand over pieces of toys to the elder brother and he will even say "Nah ...." .... Singlish but well, we get the idea. I told him to say "Here" - hope he catches that.

Kai's reaching his 1 yr mark and I've just realised how time flies. Ahhhh ......

Thursday, July 16, 2009

Standing on paper

I had adopted a new method to punish ZQ when he misbehaves. Instead of physical punishment I had tried out to make him stand on a piece of paper. I learnt this from a friend who saw her friend who did that to his son and the son was so scared that he immediately behaves.

ZQ oso dislikes to be punished that way. Sometimes when we have to do it, he's still quite obedient to stand on the paper while still whining or sobbing away. It kinda work with him. Sometimes I'd threaten to make him stand on paper if he misbehaves and he'll tend to behave a little better. It's a good method as there is no physical punishment and a good way to get the idea across to him. Furthermore, I can always bring out the piece of paper anytime anywhere!

One joke I wanna pen down is that one of the days, I was chiding my #2, Kai that he cannot do certain things like putting certain object into his mouth but Kai as a baby, still continue to do it. Next I heard ZQ telling me jokingly, "Mama, I think Kai Kai wants to stand on paper". I thought it was quite funny. He really understood that standing on paper is a kind of punishment.

On the other hand, he is also able to comprehend that if he does not do the right things, he'd get the punishment.

I am happy cos he will not learn that physical punishment is metted out whenever one misbehaves. At least now there are other methods - standing on paper(taking away freedom) and other times I'd tell him he will not get his bedtime stories which he treasures alot.

Actually I love to read to him as well. It's a time for bonding and small talks - sharing of Qiao Qiao Hua. It's really nice and as he grows, his thoughts are changing as well. I hope I am there throughout his growing stages and not miss any of that. It's a really wonderful experience.

As for Kai, I must admit that he does not enjoy so much of my time as ZQ is demanding most of my waking moments. I have to attend to him most of the time when I am home until he sleeps and by then, Kai would have slept too.

I guess when Kai grows up a little more, he'd be able to demand my attention more. In the meantime, I am still trying to give him the little time I have left.
I always thought that my hubby will have favourtism towards ZQ but it seems that through action, I seem to be giving him more time. That does not mean favourtism but it's because he demands the attention all the time and it's hard to ignore cos he is really persistent and quite cute in his own ways that I don't mind either. Poor Kai is still small and unable to articulate his needs except to make noises to get my attention.

Kai will be so excited and happy to see me - as if he had not seen me for ages. It makes me feel a little guilty at times and glad that he still likes to see me alot.

Both kids are a joy to the family and I must say we've enjoyed them very very much. It's a wonderful thing to have kids .. really. If it's guaranteed that I'd have a girl for my next pregnancy, I'd go for it but well, this is something that no one knows. So well, for now, I am happy with 2 boys.

Sunday, July 12, 2009

A frightening experience on extended stay at Bali

After we got settled down at the hotel, we went for a walk at the beach. It was low tide then and we could literally walk on the seabed. the sea level was about ankle length and we saw alot of adventurous people walking out to the seabed towards the sea which was KMs far away.

We started walking, it was not easy as it's not flat, it has slopes and we had to find ground which are not so deep to walk on. We walked and walked for a long time until we were so far away from the shore. Soon, I realised that we were the only 2 tourists, apart from 2 locals who were harvesting some sea urchins. I wanted to get back but hubby says that he wants to go further as he can see dry ground further but I was tired and i felt unsafe since most locals were already off the beach and sun was setting. So i got mad and refused to walk further, but being him, he carried on. Shortly, he returned and i told him that the tide is coming in, I could see that the sea level was rising.

Suddenly I panicked and I was wondering if we could make it in time back to the shore. I am not a good swimmer and the last thing I want to do is die in a sea mishap. We couldn't swim back as there are alot of sea weed on the sea bed and if it rises to the level which enables us to swim. it means the waves would be too strong. Hubby was still calm (or at least appears) ... and i said, let's get back as fast as possible.

We were still trying to walk sideways, finding shallow grounds but I found that the tide was rising quite quickly, I decided just to bash through directly inward towards the shore. Although the sea behind us was still far away but I saw that the water level in front of us was higher than behind us .... which means that it was filling in from the sides and not behind. I was almost suffering a panick attack and told hubby "Let's get in there ASAP" and I did not wait for him and just bashed through towards the shore myself. AFterall, he is much taller than me and a much better swimmer.

It took us quite some time before we reached the shore and I was really so relieved that I made it. At that point the sea level was already half way toward my knee (i think). If it had reached my knee, it'd be vv hard to walk back. I had to raise my leg each step and i was wearing sandals. Not to mention that there were lots of starfish and some sea urchins , etc.

When we reached shore, I spoke to hubby for a minute or two and at the end of the speech and video session, the dry ground we stood on the beach oredi rose to my ankle. It was really fast.

Thank God that we are both safe and sound and one thing I learnt - Trust your own feelings cos we know when we feel danger approaching.

Also, what we see is may not be what it really is. We saw alot of "dry" ground but later we concluded that it is not dry ground but due to the reflection of the sun as it was setting, it created that illusion. Furthermore, it looks safe cos the waves are really far behind us BUT little did we know that the water level is rising higher nearer the beach than further away from the beach.

With this experience, it makes me even more paranoid about sea activities really. But well, as the saying goes, " When we grow older, we become more Kia Si" .. which i totally agree cos i know why. Perhaps it's smarted to be more cautious? rather than taking uncalculated or ignorant risks right?

Saturday, July 11, 2009

My recent Bali trip

I had gone for a romantic two of us trip with my hubby in June to one of the famous places call Bali. hhaa. to Singaporeans Bali is so ... so ... so ....... conmmon. To us, yes it is but to people from the other side of the globe, it's a heavenly place. So hubby planned and booked for everything.

Few days before the trip, I had developed high fever and I tried to call up the agent who arrange our trip to check if we could postpone it to a few days later. Afterall H1N1 is getting more serious and I was afraid that I may not pass through the temperature scanning machine and denied to go on board the airplane.

Was feeling a little better and we set off on the planned date.

To our horror, the hotel said that my agent cancelled the booking and we had to start scrambling for another hotel - Continental Hotel at Jimbaran. which we did and paid alot more but I must say it is a really nice hotel. Family friendly, etc .

Then we wanted to book a driver to drive us around for the few days in Bali but the contact I had was not free to take the job ..... nonetheless, i still called him to ask if he has any lobang to recommend. And he sent his cousin who is a vv down to earth nice chap.

Went to quite alot of sight seeing places and enjoyed ourselves alot. Even contemplated to extend another day but due to the admin, missing the kids, we decided to return as planned.

As for this trip, the most memorable experiece (not a vv plesant one) was when we had the extended day and when we tried to walk out to the sea bed cos the tide was so low that we could walk KMs away from the shore!

On our scheduled return date, we reached the airport, bid my nice driver pal Gede goodbye and was about to check in, we were slipped a note to say that the airline had been overbooked. We can choose to return on the next day should we choose to take up an offer to provide free accomodation in a 5 star hotel, be given USD50 each and fly business class home ...

To us, it was like a dream come true ... and still be given shopping $$. Not bad. About missing the kid? suddenly it was not in the decision equation at all. So we took the offer to fly business class and extend our extra day -which we planned to enjoy chilling out at the 5 star hotel since we had been travelling for sightseeing for our entire trip.

Wild Wild Wet

We went to wild wild wet today ie Kai's first time. The last time we visited was months ago and ZQ had been bugging me to bring him there. He always tell me he wants to go Wild Wild Wet but I'd say, "Let mama go get the tickets first ok?" .... and since i am not vv ON .... I never manage to book the weekend slots in time.

This time I am vv lucky again. My collegue could not make it for hers and she had changed the date to the following month and mentioned to me that she cancelled her booking and told me to go book if I am interested. I only booked it 2 days after she told me and it was strangly still available.

So .... we went to Wild Wild wet today.

Kai was put on a float and he seemed to have enjoyed himself very very much!
He was making attempts to swim and smiling alot and he is also not scared of the water going into his eyes or onto his face.

last measured KAI, he was 10.5kg@74cm..... he's still of good weight though he still refuses solid food (ie cereal, porridge) ... so we're thinking of giving him on solid rice grains instead. He also likes bread.

ZQ. He's afraid of water running onto his eyes and on his face. This is due to the fact that my ex-maid bathes him asking him to look up into the ceiling while she tries to wash his head (full of shampoo).

For Kai, i ask my current maid to let water tricle down Kai's face while bathing him.

Wednesday, July 8, 2009

Kai @ 10 months

Kai is now 10 months old and going 1 yr old in 2 months' time. He is now more responsive and he seems to understand things quite well and trying to respond, react to it.

1. We'd read books for him and when he sees the fish in the book, he'd tutrn to the fish tank.
2. He'd "return" the cordless phone to where it belongs. Once, he took the cordless phone from another room and then crawl quickly to my bedroom and attempt to put it back to it's original position, which he can't yet. But the fact that he remembers where it is supposed to be is amazing.
3. He'd get vv excited when I bring him in front of the animal series of paintings which we bought back from Bali.
4. He loves to swim, bathe .... water basically. After bathing, he'd refused to be carried out of the bath room and always struggle and scream when it ends. When we bring him to swim, he is also very excited and likes to splash the water. So unlike ZQ who absolutely hates to have water running over his face and quite scared of it.
5. He is generally the more quiet type as compared to ZQ. But I told hubby that it is becos he cannot really speak as yet. We'll wait and see.


I told papa that Kai is a beachboy sort.

Been 4 months ...

Oh my, time flies and I am oredi feeling older.

Since my maid(L) left for her home country, 4 months had passed and lots happened. She has since came back in Apr and now my life is much better.

In the interim, we employed a new maid but she just could not adapt to us and she cannot fit into our lifestyle. We've learnt to appreciate the old maid(L) more and in fact, we give her alot more off days than agreed. She is happy and so are we. It might be more troublesome on her off days but we've learnt to be self-sufficient during her absence.

ZQ
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Now about ZQ. He's now in N1 and has grown alot. He's a really sweet boy and is protective towards my #2, Kai. Once, ZQ was sleeping and we found it hard to get him to wake up. THe moment he heard Kai crying, he immediately jumped off his bed and said "Mama, didi's crying" and was vv uneasy and disturbed. Shows that he cares about his didi's well being, which is a nice thing.

ZQ has now learnt my hp number (almost), he just misses out 1 number. Good thing or not, he will call me after he returns from school and say "mama, which station are u?" "Mama, don't come back to late ok?". Imagine he is telling me not to come back too late from work and in years to come, I will be telling him "Son, please don't come back too late after school" - Irony isn't. haha.

We're trying to speak more mandarin with him so he can learn it better. Afterall, in school, they speak English all the time and it's hard not to master it. We had also stopped letting him watch TV cos he gets hooked and all you see is a little boy staring at the TV and even if u wave your hands in front of him, he is oblivious. To do him good, we told him that the TV is spoilt (it really was) .... and after it was fixed, we did not inform him.

Recently we did turn it on to watch our own home made videos but he did not seem to want to watch TV anymore. It's a good thing cos he now spends more time with his little brother and also he gets to sleep early.

The newest thing we've done is to get him to go to bed at 8pm. It works wonderfully cos if he gets to sleep by 830-9pm, I get all the time free to myself after that. Comparing to previous when he sleeps 10-11pm, I would be a walking zombie after that.

ZQ has also started to eat more vege and once, he even told my maid to give him more vege cos mama told him to eat more vege for nice "Da Bian".

Brushing teeth. He now has mastered how to brush his own teeth.
Diaper. He is still on diaper for the nite and cos he drinks loads of milk before he sleeps, I dare not try to toilet train him for the nite at the moement.
Milk. He is still drinking a big bottle before sleep and sometimes in the middle of the nite and another feed in the morning when he wakes up.

His current favourite song is Faye Wong's "Ming Yue Ji Shi You" and since his memory is good, sometimes i sing the wrong lyrics, he'd correct me "Mama ...... no .... it's wrong ..... ".

Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Maidless for 2 weeks oredi

It's been 2 weeks since our maid went back home. Good news is that she is coming back. I contacted her and asked if she is coming back, etc ... and yes, she is. This is good news cos it's tough to get a new maid and all the familarisation again, building trust ...e tc, it's alot of time and efforts.

During these 2 weeks, hubby and I had our ups and downs, fair share of WW3 but so far, we managed without any external help. I am on leave for 2 weeks to take care of #2 as I have my extended maternity leave to clear, which I have to clear it by Aug. Knowing that I am unable to find the time anymore to clear it, this is a great opportunity and afterall I do need the leave. It's a blessing that I delivered after the cut off date of 17 Aug to qualify for the new baby bonus scheme. It's a real blessing as I had initially wanted to go for my c-sect on 08082008.

Still trying to get my rest and hopefully when maid comes back, I can have more sleep. Work is getting heavier as well and there are alot of new learning opportunities, which I really like.

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

Maid had left for home ...

Yesterday, we sent my maid to the airport as she requested to go home due to her husband's illness. It was rather sad cos I have to take over that role, yet we are going to wait for her for 1 week to inform us if she is coming back at all.

In the initial days since last week, after she informed us that she needs to go back, she changed her tune from not sure if she is coming back to "Yes Sir, I will come back". She even checked with us what is ZQ's birthday so she can be back in time to celebrate with him.

Have not heard from her yet but by now, she should have reached her home.
Hope to hear from her soon .... at least an sms.

For me, I had been busy since we returned from the airport.
Wash up the kids, fed them and put them to sleep, expressing milk, washing bottles, pump, shower, dinner, shower #1, fed #2, pump again, put #1 to sleep , fed #2 again. busy all the until almost 2am.

By 4am, #1 asked for milk. At 5am, #2 cried for milk. At 6am, expressing BM.

Wonder how long this kind of lifestyle gonna last.

Tuesday, February 10, 2009

ZQ and his ways of expression

Last evening, ZQ was playing alot on his bed and refusing to sleep.
At one point, he told me "Mama, I think i have too much grapes" so i had to ask him if he is having a tummy ache and if he wants to Da Bian. He then said he does.
Instead of just telling me direct that he wants to pass motion, he will use such phrases and hoping we can understand him.

During times when he wants to vomit, he'll say "Mama., I think I have too much milk." so we'll to guess what does too much milk mean.

Since our maid is going home today, i had been training and telling ZQ that auntie is going back to see his children. ZQ also knows that she is going home to see her "YeYe, Nai Nai, GuGu, Ge Ge, Di Di" ... cos that's the list he knows about family.

I told him "Auntie is going home to see her children" so mama will be the one to bathe you when he was asking me to bathe him .. next he said "Auntie, you go home ok?" cos he wants me to bathe him instead. Good thing he is not too sticky to the maid else i'd have a hard time. I hope he settles well with the idea of maid not being around.

Monday, February 9, 2009

Maidless days coming, too soon to be true

Last week, I noticed that maid looked abit distressed, unhappy, abnormal so I asked her what happened. She then told me that her husband had a stroke and now is unconscious in the hospital, in other words, in a coma.


Next, she said she wanted to go back home. So I woke hubby up and told him. Hubby then suggested to quickly send her home and get a temporary replacement maid until she comes back. However, there is no such thing as replacement maid for a month or two.


That was the start of processing her return and thinking of how to manage without her. Worst, is the finding of a new maid. It's a torturous process.


We asked my maid if she can confirm when she is returning back so we can get her a 2 way ticket and she can go back to settle her family. She said she is not sure as the in laws side might not release her and had demanded that she returns to take care of her husband.


We offered her a few solutions ... cos if she were to go back this time. Coming back to SG without any employer means she has to pay off another 6 months of salary to the agency. Or even if we reprocess her with a new contract, the costs would be $1000+.


She did consider and her final decision was to go home as she said that her SIL would be vv angry and not let her see her family if she does not go home ... and she says if she no longer have a family, what's the point of her working so hard in Singapore. Well, she's got a valid concern there. Also, she said if she were to take a 2 way ticket and she is unable to come back, then it's unfair to us. She really sounds so considerate and genuine.


However, after i spoke to her agent, I did doubt if her story is true as many maids had come up with unbelievable stories which often turns out to be untrue. This saddens singapore employers and sometimes questions the authencity of the story. Of course there is also the story from the agent which I hope not to be true - hopefully this is not a self deceiving thought. Afterall, we had been so good to her and do not see any reason of her not wainting to work for us. Furthermore, with her current situation, she would need employment to feed her family.


Hubby says that perhaps the agent make up a story to say that my maid is not coming back so she can earn the comission from us for introducing another maid. perhaps.


Nontheless for now, we just have to based on trust that she is indeed coming back if she can.

Had given her a week to reply to us once she is back before I process a new maid if she is not coming back. SO in the meantime, I had taken leave and gonna assume the role of a maid ... only that mine is temporary and i can choose not to do certain things and take short cuts.

Hope i will do fine.

Saturday, January 31, 2009

Brought ZQ to school today myself

Been a long time since I brought ZQ to school cos i put him on school van since I delivered. It's been 5 months. ZQ is easily adaptable .. and so far he has coped well with being in a school van.

Today, the auntie's not picking ZQ up and I have to send him to childcare myself. I kinda miss those times. While i was pregnant, I had to bring ZQ to and fro from childcare and back. It was tough as I was pregnant and ZQ is an active toddler but the time spent with him is very worthwhile.

When i entered the childcare, i see the familiar faces of the teachers which made me feel very warm and welcomed. It's been months since i stepped in ..... think i should try to go more often to visit.

The Chinese teacher also commented that ZQ is vv cute and adorable. She said that he goes around to wish everyone he sees "Gong Xi Fa Cai, Xin Nian Kuai Le" ...

ZQ really knows how to please adults. He's really funny and fun to be with. Can imagine how's he like when he grows older - sure he's gonna charm alot of gals.

Few days ago when we had quite alot of frens at my place and it was already time for ZQ to sleep, he'd come out of the room and say "Papa, I wan to kiss you goodnite". Then he kissed hubby, then came to me and did the same thing. Not just that, he'd go to everyone (all our guests) and kiss everyone on the cheek. AFterwhich , he went inside and not long later, he came out again.

This time, he came with new idea that he wants to "hug papa goodnite" and hugs papa, myself and all the guests got a hug from him as well. It was quite nice to see him so friendly and hugging and kissing everyone .... papa was so proud.

However, knowing this son of mine, I think he must be thinking of how to stay in the living room longer ... cos if he hugs just hubby and myself, he'd have to get back to his room vv fast. So by hugging everyone, he gets more time to stay in the living room.

Other time he'd say "Oh, i forgot!" ... that he'd forget this and that and he must do this and that.
He ah, is such a GENG king .. like my hubby.

Friday, January 30, 2009

First attempt to start Kai on FM - failed

Realised yesterday that I had only 2 packets of FBM left .... and it's an emergency call to start Kai on FM since my daily production of BM is not really meeting his needs anymore.

He is currently drinking 180ml*7 feeds (sometimes 8 feeds). That would mean I have to produce 1.26 litres - 1.44 litres of breastmilk daily. My per pump is about 300-400 ml and I pump 4 times per day - 6+am, 12+pm, 8+pm and 12+am ... that means only about 1-1.2 litres per day.

Today I instructed my maid to give Kai 150ml of breastmilk and 30ml of FM. Later she called me and told me that Kai threw up 1 hour after he had taken the milk. Then by 7+, it was feed time again, she fed him and in the middle of the feed, he threw up again.

Being an anxious mother, i quickly rush down the his PD at Rivervale Mall to take a queue number. She told me the waiting time is 1-2 hours. I bought some stuff at NTUC and checked again and she said , "another hour". So i went home with ZQ.

Kai woke up from his sleep and appeared with more energy and can even smile. So in the end I did not bring him to the PD but I have to monitor him at nite. So far, he had taken his last feed at 11pm and has now fallen asleep. Hopefully he doesn't throw up anymore.

Tomorrow i am gonna try the milk again and see if he throws up .... if he does, he's prob not suitable for it and i have to switch formula.

Saturday, January 24, 2009

Things ZQ says and his progress

Whenever I want to punish ZQ for not listening to my instructions, he'll say
"Mama, don't beat too hard ok?"
"Mama, don't beat my hand, beat my backside ok?"
When I tried to pull down his pants to beat his backside, he says "Mama, cannot pull down the pants". cos he knows it's not too painful to beat the buttock.

Other constant words he says
"Mama, don't eat everything" or "Mama, you eat everything!"
"Mama, don't turn off my computer"
"Mama, i haven't listen to the Thomas the train music yet"
"Mama, i've off the TV, too much TV for me"

I think he's good memory. He can sing quite a few of the Thomas the train song and he knows and remembers the lyrics ie. 2468 song, the brave one, gone fishing and Hip hip Hurray. Even for myself I cannot memorise the lyrics, he can and he'll even teach me how to sing the song. His ability to handle tunes is vv good.

For reading of story books, he seems to remember the story and normally i'll start with a few words and he will continue the story. It's quite fun to hear him read the story. I don't think he knows how to read the words but it's just route learning which he mastered himself.

Sometimes we'd skip a page and read on but he'll tell me, "Mama, not this page ..... , it's wrong!"

He's talking alot now and it's fun having him around. He's vv creative and imaginitive.
I must say that he really knows how to please the adults.
He's also helpful and want to help in everything - perhaps it's fun for him to do the adult thing ie When i am pumping milk, he'd want to help me fix up the pump. Basically i think he's vv keen to learn alot of things which is a good trait.

I hope to learn to guide him in the right way so he'll be a good person in future. Being vv creative, he can really get his way around and even negotiating with us. I have to be careful not to let him develop in the wrong direction. One thing which I don;t like is that he likes to whine and even go into tears alot to get his way.

He's now 34 months and going 3 in march. Weighing @ 16kg @ 97cm(i think).

Greeting CNY

Sun is CNY and we'll be off work until next Wed ... a good 4 days break, not exactly long though.
For myself, I am still nursing the cough. Meds dun seem to be working but I can't take any meds unless it's safe for breastfeeding. Kai has also caught the bug from either ZQ or myself and he's developed phelgm too. Hope he recovers soon.

Kai is now 5 months @ a heafty 9 kg @ 70cm. Alot of people says that their babies are only hitting 10kg at almost a year old. I wonder how big Kai will grow to .. but he's indeed a big baby. He's vv tall and relatively easy to manage baby. He drinks vv well 180ml @ 7-8 feeds a day and is a vv happy baby. He can KO and sleep within 1-2 minutes and don't fuss too much. Thank God that he's as easy as ZQ - i am glad.

Comparing to ZQ, Kai is much taller, bigger and darker. I call him TALL, DARK and HANDSOME ... while ZQ is FAIR, more of the guai guai look, though he's rather cheeky. One sunny boy and the other, a BAI MA WANG ZI. kekekke.

ALot of people says Kai looks more like me which I do agree. Slightly more than ZQ.
ZQ is a duplicate of hubby while Kai has bigger eyes, more hair but not as deep dimples as ZQ. They're both good looking in their own ways .... haha, beauty in the eyes of the beholder. Of course, they both look fantastic in my eyes.

We tend to feel those who look similar to ourselves as more beautiful, that's why sometimes people find their partners who look like themselves (self love) ... and end up people says FU QI XIANG. No wonder hubby thinks ZQ is better looking than Kai though more people thinks Kai is more good looking .. kekkeke. I think Kai is more good looking cos he's more of my genes! Nonetheless, he looks vv much like ZQ when he was a baby. Hope not another duplicate of hubby ..... at least have some of my good genes rite?

Monday, January 19, 2009

Almost everyone in the family is down

ZQ had just recovered from his flu and I caught it from him, now passed on to Kai and my helper.

I had been coughing for almost 2 weeks and it does not seem to get any better. Seen the doctor for 3 times already and given MC to rest at home.

Now Kai has also started coughing and having a runny nose .... good thing he is still ok and able to drink and sleep , though he naps relatively short.

CNY is just round the corner and if I don't get well, it means I don't get to eat all the goodies :(
With this cough, I had also lost my voice .... hopefully it will get better soon. All of us.

ZQ has progressed to new heights ....

ZQ had progressed to new heights .... *sigh ... not the good stuff.

Yesterday, ZQ told me that he's a good boy and finished his rice. Normally he'd not come tell me cos he'd never finish it so I was rather surprised, pleasantly surprised that he did. He even showed me his rice bowl. As i looked into his bowl, it was clean and in fact too clean to be true. It had been washed! I was wondering why would anyone wash his bowl? I didn't , my hubby will not and why would my maid wash it and pass it back to him?

So I suspected that he threw away the remaining portions of his rice into the sink in the living room toilet. I then complained to daddy and asked him to discipline his son ..... Hubby, heard how "clever" his son is in avoiding punishment cos he told ZQ that if ZQ does not finish his rice, he's get the ruler punishment. Being afraid of punishment, ZQ had come up with a lie to avoid this punishment which is wrong of course.

Hubby, was rather amused by the fact that his son can be so creative to pour away the rice and even washed the bowl. He felt that his son had inherited this "creative" genes from him and refused to punish him.

I am not sure if this is good or bad but definitely, I have to discipline ZQ, otherwise, he might think it's ok to do this again in future. Have not confirmed which is the best method but for now, still have to discipline.

Tuesday, January 13, 2009

ZQ almost drowned

Brought Kai and Quan for the swim and as I was the only one in the water, I can only handle Kai .. leaving Quan to play by himself in the baby pool. Since the baby pool is vv shallow, it's ok. Of course I was keeping a lookout for him.

When Kai was done, I took him out to shower and told Quan not to move to the centre of the baby pool as no one was there to look after him except my helper who was at the side of the pool.

While inside showering Kai and changing him. I heard Quan outside crying so I thought he might have fell or perhaps wanted something but did not get it.

Got outside and mommy Kat told me that my helper jumped into the baby pool to save Quan cos he almost drowned. Later I found out that Quan was playing in the pool and as he was walking to the centre of the pool, he slipped and fell facedown in the pool. My maid then jumped in and tried to pull him up but unable so she squad down and carry him up. It was quite a scare for Quan and maid was drenched. I hope Quan will not be afraid to go for swimming in future.

Cannot imagine if he had really drowned ... i would be so sad and would not be able to forgive myself if an accident happens to him due to my negligence but sad or distress will be an understatement. I think i'd go bonkers. thinking back about it, i cried ... just imagining losing him is such a tough thought.

Even recently he was admitted to the hospital and at one point, they had to suck out the phelgm from his lungs .... i cried the moment the nurse told me. I cannot imagine having to watch him suffer ... so during the process, they banned me from going in as they said I prob cannot take it and be a hinderance. It was a fast process but it still pains my heart.

Must make sure that eyes are always on him 100% when I bring him to swim in future ... and if there's no one to watch in close proximity, then we'll have to get him out of the water.

Kai's first swim

Brought Kai for his first swim at a public pool at 4mth+. Invited baby Adel along too.

I bought him a swim diaper(non disposable) and becos it was on sale from an overseas site, the green color i wanted to order was out of stock, i took the purple color one instead. Kinda too girly but well, he's only a baby, shld be ok ba.

Also bought the neck float which cost me $20+ ....

The first attempt was rather unsuccessful. Firstly, my chubby 8.5kg Kai's neck (or no neck since it was already merging with his shoulder n chin) ... it was vv difficult to put the float on ... it seems to be suffocating him. Finally after much struggle, we managed to do it. Then i slowly lower him into the water .... he did not quite like it as the water was quite cold. It was not too sunny at that time. He did make some fuss and cry for quite a fair bit. I guess he was scared.

I put him close to me and he kinda stopped but my #1 was spraying water with the pump for the float into Kai's face! of course he was frightened.

Tried for a while later and finally gave up and took him out of water. It was difficult to shower him in the bathroom though. The floor was slippery and they do not have a tub to shower him.
Managed to shower him but I I did not bring in the shower gels .... so just wash him with water.

So I must say the first attempt is not successful. Perhaps I should bring him to HwaXia first to experience it and let the professionals show and teach me how to put the float and see his reaction if he is willing to swim at that time. Don'twant him to be scared of swimming in the future.

Saturday, January 10, 2009

Quan @ 34 mths


Happy family


Kai Kai - 4.5 months

I am experimenting a new software from Epson as I bought Epson printer .. it's called Photomix . Quite easy to use and it's rather flexible. Another interesting option to the one I am currently using. Cool.







Family is sick

ZQ, hubby and myself are all down with flu except ZK and our helper.

In the middle of the nite, hubby suddenly felt that there are too much virus in the room and decided to move ZK out of the room to avoid him catching the virus from us. As ZQ is sleeping with the helper, there's no other room with adults that are free from virus. Hubby decided that the living room is the best place to place his dear little baby.

Sensing the commotion, I woke up and told him that the living room is so cold! The windows were all open and the space is big, it's not as cosy as a room .. and ZK could potentially be more susceptible to fall sick. ZK oso woke up at this juncture as there were much movements.

Hubby then went into the study room as I told him since he's more sick then better to be away from ZK and there he goes, back to sleep. However, what he had done is causing the entire family to wake up.

As ZK makes noise, ZQ is woken up and he starts asking for milk, the helper wakes up .... then ZK will be hungry, i've got to make milk, feed him .... then with me waking up, my milk supply flows and it's time to pump milk. It's all a big chain effect. So sometimes i really prefer him to do nothing about it, at least i get to enjoy some beauty sleep .... his intention is good but well, he had not woken up enough to think clearly. See the impact of his 1 action? and we suffer.

Well, by now, the milk pumping session had ended and ZQ, ZK are back to sleep. Leaving me more awake than ever to update this blog which I have no time for.

ZK is now sleeping peacefully in his cot in my room, with me, smiling in his sleep n lying sideways. So cute and adorable.

Imaginative play

2 nites ago, ZQ came into the room and told me, "Mama, it's your birthday" ... paused .. then said "Come on out, I've got a celebration for u". SO i went .... "Oh ... it's mama's birthday? .... ok ...... what celebration have you got for me?"

I went to the living room and he set up some toys, and said there's a cake for me. He put on the candles, then i taught him to light the match and we sing birthday song, blew the candles and cut the cake. He then cut a piece to offer me .... i ate it, then he offered another, and another. It was fun. I told him "Not too much cos mommy's gonna get a tummy ache".

Am quite amazed at how imaginative these little kids are and it's a good thing that he is. I'd rather this than having him become a couch potatoe. Although he does watch a reasonable amt of TV - cos sometimes really too busy to keep this active toddler occupied.

Sometimes he'd say something and i had to ask him if it's real or he's just playing pretend.

He also went to tell Papa that it's his birthday and guess papa's response?
No, it's not my birthday. Then ZQ said "It's your birthday" ... cos he wanted to show papa the celebration he had prepared so it has to be papa's birthday for the celebration right?
Papa again said "it's not my birthday" ... sometimes i'd rather he play along and jus say "Ok, let's play pretend" .... ZQ understands that it is not real, just imaginative play. He's pretty good at identifying reality with fake play, which is good cos some children would grow up with imaginative frens who don't go away in extreme cases.

In short, imaginative play should be encouraged and passive input ie from the TV should be reduced. He learnt alot from the TV programme - Disney Channel as well but it should not be his every waking hour.

I must comment that at his age (turning 3 in 2 months' time) .. he's pretty mature. He'd know that his TV time is up when we ask him "Are you done with your TV?" "Please switch off the TV" ..... he'd request for another "5 minutes" then he'd go turn off the TV.
He even says "Too much TV is bad for the eye" ...coming from his, it sounds quite cute.

One of the programme which i find that it's educational is called "Word World" ... it would have words that springs up live and becomes the item/object itself. E.g. BOOK will appear in the shape of a book while retaining the characters and we still can see that it spells as Book. It's good for them to learn alphabets and also identify them.

ZQ down with flu n fever .... again

ZQ is more sustible to cough than any one of us in the family. He started having fever, runny nose, cough since Monday. Tue, fever went off but it seems that he is down with a flu, hence i brought him to see the PD at the mall.

PD prescribed him medication and neubiliser. Something ZQ is familiar with. Now he can even hold the neubiliser himself. Sometimes when he coughs, he'd ask, where's the neubiliser. Perhaps it does provide some relief to him that he's asking for it.

He's been out of school since Tue .... his CC teacher emailed and said the other children were asking for him and like to know when he is returning to school. I said, Next week prob. Prefers to keep him at home to rest and get better rather than risk him to catch other viruses and oso to spread his virus to the other children.

He's been coughing more badly at nite .... not sure if the medication from the PD is not suitable. Told the PD abt it when he went back for review last evening. She changed the medication for him n advised that he can go to school next week.

Asked hubby to get a letter from the PD to request the teachers to administer the medication on behalf .. but the letter is nowhere to be found. Wonder what daddy is doing? hmmm.

Tuesday, January 6, 2009

Quan is really so endearing

Earlier, hubby wanted to bring Kai down for a walk but the weather is so cold so i said better not. Who knows before I could even react, he had already gone downstairs.
I told ZQ that he cannot go since he's sick. Then he went to the window to call out aloud for papa.
He even said good nite to papa when he was told it's time for him to sleep. Some time later, he ran to the window and shouted "Papa, it's late and it's too cold for didi".

Another time, I was upset with hubby and we had slight argument, ZQ come over to mediate and said "Don't shout, talk ok?"..... i can't believe that it came from my little 2 yr+ boy. He's really a peace lover. Had he not been a boy, i would send him to the Miss Universe Pagent so he can say "World Peace" ... hahhaa.

He's do wrong things and whenever i scold him, he'd come hug me and say "Sorry, mama".
He seems to know what are the politically correct answers to make adults happy.
He'd come tell me that he had finished the program when he could continue to watch it.
He'd kiss and hug Kai all over, including his diaper and then come tell me "Mama, didi's diaper is wet, need to change.
He'd say "Mama, don't eat everything" if he wans some of the food ... and if he comes back and finds it missing he'd say "Mama, u eat everything!"
He'd come to play with my computer and see the happy face on the forum and say "Don't touch my computer!"
He'd say "I need to work oso" when i give him excuse that i am working .....
He loves Thomas the train and is able to sing the 2468.. song. He now loves the other one called "The brave one" ... or Brave one.
He loves to eat vitamin gummies
He does not eat vegetables and meat
He's a good natured boy who loves ...... world peace! hehe.
He's tall for his age and weights about 16.5kg.

He's such an enjoyable and fun kid to be with and he's vv imaginitive too.
Really love spending time with him.

Slow in updating my blog

Yes, it's been another few weeks since i last visited this blog. Been wanting to pen down some things but never get to do it.

Now ZQ is down with fever again, plus runny nose, he's irritable during his sleep - he'll scream for a few seconds then tone down and goes back to sleep again.

As for Kai, he's doing vv fine. He's a whopping 9kg @ 4month 1 week ... there about. He's missed his 2nd jab and I am supposed to bring him tomorrow.

I must really say that having 2 boys really keep me occupied. They are both like Orchestra, taking turns to demand my attention.

Quan will always find me for everything. His favourite is currently the vitamin gummies which he calls "Vitamin sweet". He woulda ask for 4 each time - not sure if i am over giving.
He is oso good at negotiating for more ... he had some in the morning, and wanted more at nite but i said he oredi ate his vitamin sweets. He'd keep saying no, i did not eat. Finally, i gave him option of 1 sweet or none. Finally he relented.