Sleeping with the little one

Been a while since ZQ slept in my room - his cot in my room was dismantled to avoid cluttering up the place as he sleeps in the bigger cot in my maid's room. In addition, we did not want him to have the habit of being used to sleeping in our room and difficult to shift him to his own room in the future.

Heard of "horror" stories that some kids sleep with their parents till they are few years old and worst, sleep in between the parents. Worst still, some "chase" the daddy off the bed and have the mommies to themselves, daddy sleeps on a mattress on the floor. Well, that's the last thing I would want to happen to us, hence, I allow ZQ to sleep in my maid's room. We used to take turns but it became convenient as my maid can get him to sleep within 10-15 mins. Me? 1 hour.

It's really nice (a nice feeling actually) to have him sleep on the same bed but in physical, both hubby n I find it a little too cramp. Now we do not have fear of squashing him as he is already 84cm">12.5kg@ >84cm. In fact, I felt I was being squeezed out of the bed when he was turning about on the bed. Not forgetting that my hubby is not exactly small.

Hwr, he woke up at 6+, 8+ , both of each I gave him milk and he stopped his fuss. I tried just to pacify him but it did not work and eventually I gave milk. I had been telling my maid to try not to give him milk in the middle of the night but after last night, now, my theory of just feeding him water will remain a theory .... ZQ will make a big fuss until milk is given. In fact, he even woke up and until I told him I am making him milk, he did not stop his fuss.

Nonetheless, it was still great to sleep with my son. Told hubby that we should do this more often. Hwr, with us staying at my in laws place most of the time, the super single bed surely does not have space for him to squeeze with me. Perhaps I might try and who knows, it will enhance the closeness with me ... haha, not that he is not close with me. Just my feeling of him being closer to me .. not sure if this is a pitfall of those mommies who tries to break the habit of leaving the kid to sleep with them.

Perhaps it is just a feeling? I think that so long before they sleep, we spent enough time with them, communicate with them & love them, their sleeping moments do not really matter. It might even be better for them to sleep by themselves as it teaches them independence when they wake up by themselves at night and they can get themselves back to sleep :) Sometimes I feel ZQ do not sleep well with us as he does not have the space he has on his own bed to toss and turn and spread himself out like a king!

So much for ZQ sleeping with me ... agreed with hubby that we could do this a little more often on weekends - if it does not cause us our beauty sleep, ZQ can look forward to sleeping more with daddy and mommy :) Perhaps it's the other way round -- mommy looking forward to sleeping with ZQ. Hopefully, ZQ's beauty sleep is not disrupted.